Talking with a friend, our girly chats: about work, hobbies, relationships. And I catch myself thinking that for each area we have a thought: “what if it doesn’t work out because I…”. And it comes up so often in conversation that I felt sad: why do we so often look for the cause of failure in ourselves? Even when nothing is known yet.

We are used to thinking that everything is okay with us only when 1️⃣ we are perfect, 2️⃣ we never make mistakes, 3️⃣ everyone likes us. But no one can meet these requirements 24/7.

I once started talking about Milton Erickson’s principles. And in my conversation with my friend, I thought of another one: Everyone is OK.

And she is OK. And I am OK. Because every person is a unique individual, and mistakes, weaknesses, doubts are not signs of “brokenness,” but part of personal experience.

This does not mean that you can change nothing, commit destructive acts, and believe that everything is fine. It means that everything that happens is logical and makes sense. Even if it seems like a dead end right now. A person can always find a way to move forward by relying on their strengths.

What changes if you apply this principle?
⭐️ You don’t wait for external evaluation (anxiety decreases)
⭐️ Energy goes not into self-flagellation but into action (more energy)
⭐️ Mistakes become experience, not a disaster (flexibility appears)
⭐️ Understanding others becomes easier (depth in relationships).

What you can definitely do when the thought “something is wrong with me” visits you is to notice it. See how often it appears.
Ask yourself:
▶️ Is this really true, or am I exaggerating?
▶️ What does this recurring thought give me?
▶️ What would I say to a friend in such a situation?

We often wait for support from loved ones and significant people, forgetting that we can be that person for ourselves—to support, not to hate. And remember that I am OK!

#this_will_help #food_for_thought