How often do I find myself afraid of a new situation or project, even when there is practically no reason for it. And then I handle the situation brilliantly, receive good feedback, and even laugh at my fear. I often think about how much of my energy and time goes into pondering possible "failures." And why are we used to talking to ourselves from the position of "how am I going to deal with this failure"? Instead of relying on our experience, strengths, and desires.

By shaping my behavior in sessions and in life, I began to notice how one of Milton Erickson's* five principles works. It goes like this: every person already has everything they need to achieve their goal.

If a problem arises, it means the person already has the ability to solve it. Otherwise, it wouldn't have appeared. We are at a point that is the result of our past decisions. That means:

We also have the keys to change. That is, everything needed to solve problems and overcome difficulties is already within us. Sometimes these resources manifest implicitly, but they are present – in experience, knowledge, habits, hidden abilities, and inner potential.


Agree, looking at your affairs from this position is much more pleasant.

How to apply this principle in life?
▪️Recall past victories.
What qualities helped you cope before?
▪️Identify hidden skills.
What can you do but still underestimate?
▪️Give yourself time!
Sometimes you don't need a new action, but the ability to stop, hear yourself, and choose consciously.

*Milton Erickson is the founder of modern coaching, a psychiatrist and psychotherapist who developed the principles underlying coaching approaches

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